I thought it was funny that this idea had a resurgence and rebranding about 20 years ago. Young people claimed to be polyamorous and the word throuple entered our zeitgeist. One can't be in an open marriage, that's what your parents’ generation said. You can't be swingers that's what your grandparents’ generation said. Polygamy reeks of misogyny so that was out. A new generation seeks to relearn the same lessons of every generation before it. Wise old King Solome said it was unwise to have more than one wife and he should know, he had a thousand. Polyamorous sounds great. It means “all the love.” What we really want is all the love of one individual. You could rail against the sin of jealousy but that seems to be hardwired in our view of spouses. I'm sure you could find some that have happiness in this idea but by and large most will be miserable. My wife jokes that she needs a wife but I am quite sure she doesn't mean for me. She wants someone to cook. clean and take care of paperwork. I believe my wife's opinion of having two husbands is that would be one and a half too many men to take care of. Having said I don’t think it’s wise, what do you think about letting the issue be between the individual and God?
I think maybe expanding cruciformity to include the full Christological triad (my phrase) of incarnation, crucifixion, and resurrection à la Bonhoeffer could be helpful in these discussions. Good stuff here though.
I definitely agree that we can expand to continue working out our ethics. Cruciformity is a helpful starting place and grounds us, but it’s not comprehensive. Thanks for reading. Maybe you want to pop on the podcast again and talk through some ethics? We could dig into one of the books you’ve been working through and do some hermeneutical work.
I thought it was funny that this idea had a resurgence and rebranding about 20 years ago. Young people claimed to be polyamorous and the word throuple entered our zeitgeist. One can't be in an open marriage, that's what your parents’ generation said. You can't be swingers that's what your grandparents’ generation said. Polygamy reeks of misogyny so that was out. A new generation seeks to relearn the same lessons of every generation before it. Wise old King Solome said it was unwise to have more than one wife and he should know, he had a thousand. Polyamorous sounds great. It means “all the love.” What we really want is all the love of one individual. You could rail against the sin of jealousy but that seems to be hardwired in our view of spouses. I'm sure you could find some that have happiness in this idea but by and large most will be miserable. My wife jokes that she needs a wife but I am quite sure she doesn't mean for me. She wants someone to cook. clean and take care of paperwork. I believe my wife's opinion of having two husbands is that would be one and a half too many men to take care of. Having said I don’t think it’s wise, what do you think about letting the issue be between the individual and God?
I think maybe expanding cruciformity to include the full Christological triad (my phrase) of incarnation, crucifixion, and resurrection à la Bonhoeffer could be helpful in these discussions. Good stuff here though.
I definitely agree that we can expand to continue working out our ethics. Cruciformity is a helpful starting place and grounds us, but it’s not comprehensive. Thanks for reading. Maybe you want to pop on the podcast again and talk through some ethics? We could dig into one of the books you’ve been working through and do some hermeneutical work.
Absolutely!